We stepped aside to a quiet spot in the school hallway where she revealed to me, near tears, that she was walking funny.
“Because my stomach is fat,” she admitted, triggering negative self-talk cry mode. She demonstrated that she was walking with her shoulders and waist slightly bent forward all day to hide her “fat” stomach.
As a woman, I totally get this experience. But as a 9-year-old, how could she feel this horrible about herself already? Of all things to worry about at this age, being fat isn’t one of them. Except that it is.
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(Originally written June, 2015) Me and my other half have a long-standing tension when it comes to my career. It’s complicated. I’ll forego the details. Point is, yet another quick fuse was lit last night. Its years of fuel burned bright and hot in an instant. He took his disdain down the hall and into […]
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It will serve as a reminder to me, for now, and to Ava as she grows old enough to understand, that we must endure what we think we cannot, that we must still believe even when we want to give up, that we must be present often enough to feel the purity of gratitude, and that there is immense love and power in the sharing of HOPE.
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(Originally written April, 2016) In the spirit of subtle non-conformity, this evening I eagerly attended the Mad Science with Mom event at school with my daughter – a Mother-Son event. We arrived to an auditorium full of rambunctious elementary-aged boys puddled together hyperactively cross-legged on the floor making a mess of pizza and absently spilling […]
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(Originally written May, 2015) It’s one-in-the-morning on our first night of surf camp. There’s a cold ocean breeze kicking up the surf ending a day of rainy gray skies and starting a new day of hopefully more cooperative weather. We’ve been here a mere 7 hours and one girl has already projectile vomited all over […]
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(Originally written Oct, 2013) I’m not a joiner – never have been. You could say I’m more of the lone-wolf type. In school, I didn’t go to football games, homecomings or proms. I’ve never been a big fan of group activities like organized religion, social media or, heaven forbid, mommy’s groups. But even I must […]
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(Originally written Nov, 2015) Today my daughter had a soccer game and made the winning goal while I wasn’t watching. In fact, none of us parents were watching. We were entrenched in conversation about our homework frustrations when another parent interrupted to say, “Ava just made a goal” in a matter of fact tone. A […]
Read More What We Learn From Our Kids: Soccer Edition
(Originally written in June, 2013) I’ve been on that stomach-turning freelance roller coaster in the production industry for nearly two decades. If you are a freelancer, you are all too familiar with the ride. Those highs of steady work fattening your bank account while being surrounded by like-minded war buddies, fully addicted to the rush […]
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(Originally published in San Diego Family Magazine, April 2012) We all do it, whether we have kids or not – judge parenting. If you are a parent, chances are good that someone thinks you’re not doing it the way they would. While us parents are tossed around by public opinion – from being a working […]
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(Originally written in April, 2012) Hanging out in Paris with Jim is like stomping through a Parisian Smurf village destroying centuries-old mushroom houses with a rolling keg of beer. The French are all running around in their scarves and tight pants, sipping wine and coffee out of pinky cups. They pack themselves like cigarettes next […]
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